Lets face it. Weddings are stressful, crazy, and a full-time job when you're planning them on your own. But when you surround yourself with the right people including friends, family, planners, and others, they become more enjoyable and sometimes fun!
Until...
You bring the MOB in the picture, AKA, the Mother of the Bride.
If you thought brides were crazy, think again! Sometimes mothers can overstep their boundaries just like anyone else, but this is a very sensitive subject. Why? Because she is your Mom. You love her to death and want this to be a fun and amazing experience you can both look back on one day and smile about.
So if your Mom is a go-getter, control-prone, list making, take control woman, here are some things you can do to make her life (as well as yours!) a lot easier.
- COMMUNICATION!!!
Before the planning even begins, sit down with your Mom and discuss things such as budget, themes, ideas, and lay the ground rules. By opening a healthy line of communication from the beginning you will feel more comfortable talking about any issues that may come up. And make sure you keep her in the loop, even with small decisions. It makes her feel included and it will make you feel good for making her happy.
- GIVE HER SPECIAL TASKS!!!
Maybe your Mom is very craft friendly or perhaps she had dabbled in floral arrangements every now and then, but either way give her something all her own that she can focus on. By giving her little things to do she not only feels helpful and useful, but it takes some stress off of you and your Fiance.
- USE YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO HELP MEDIATE!!!
Starting to get really stressed about a nagging Mom? Ask your MOH or an immediate family member who has a close relationship with her to get the hint across. Sometimes it's easier to understand something when it isn't coming from you. It also doesn't seem like a personal attack either. Remember, emotions run high when weddings take place so be respectful and go back to the first rule of thumb, communication!
The biggest thing to understand is that this wedding day is YOUR day. And while a lot of people, not just the MOB, may feel like they should have a say in every little detail, it is ultimately up to you and your Fiance to make the final call. Everyone just wants your day to be perfect. Sometimes it may come off a little selfish, but in the end it is all for you.
Have a crazy story about someone who tried to take over your wedding?? Post a comment and tell us how you dealt with the situation! In the meantime, happy planning!
Love,
AMH
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